Visit

Well today is Sunday the 3rd of January 2010 and my best friend James is out visiting from Missouri. Well lets just say that he has aged better than me. We are having great fun and catching up on things and just enjoying each others company as we did when we were stationed together. It's been a little over 10 years since I last saw James. He is much grayer but pretty much the same. As we are visiting these past few days and exchanging our experiences and thoughts I am overwhelming struck by a sadness that my friend is deep down lonely and sad. I don't even know how many years he's been divorced now, much longer than me I'll bet. After some careful conversation I am finding out that he isn't much into dating and that past few "dates" he has been on have been disastrous as in the girls have turned psycho stalker on him. I can understand why he is cautious about women. On the outside things look sooo good, he as a new Mustang and a Jeep and big house with lots of toys and such however upon careful inspection one can't help but be overtaken by the loneliness that is all about him. Jen upon first meeting him was struck at how good looking he was but then after getting to know him has made the same observations that I have about him. With all that he has and has done there isn't anybody to share it with and grow old with. Everything he does is a solo event, sure he can call Jen and I and tell us about it but it isn't the same as having someone at home to share you life with. We have one of those electronic photo frames on the Kitchen table, we got it for Christmas and I quickly loaded it up with some of the photos Jen and I have taken over the course of our relationship and now marriage and as I look at the photos playing across it I come to realize that I am so much richer than James is, sure he has money and material things but he doesn't have somebody to share his life with. Before Jen I was in a one sided marriage which led to a divorce and then in a 10 year relationship that for all in tense purposes was nothing more than being roomates. There was never any of the feelings of fun, love and just a general feeling of knowing that you were made for each other. It was pretty much a sole existence as James is currently living. Now that I'm with Jen and we are raising Tristin and sharing a life together I am realizing how much of life I missed. I thank the lord every day for bringing Jen and I together. Jen is my wife, lover and above all best friend in the world. I don't know what I would do without her. To get back on track, I am saddened by what has become of my friend, I hope and pray that he can find that someone special to share his life with. Well it's off to work, later tonight James will be over and maybe he and I can have a serious talk of sorts.