Saturday

Well today is Saturday and we are all just sitting around watching TV as family. Life doesn't get any better than this. To have a loving wife who is truly in love with you and loves you as much as you love her and isn't afraid to show it. Plus her son as adopted me as his dad as his real doesn't want anything to do with him. As each day goes by I thank god that he made our paths cross. A year ago I would have never thought it possible that I would be here and have such a loving wife. There are times when you know things are right, well here are some examples. Before Jen I would wake up every night around 2am and stay up until 4 am or so and then go back to bed for a couple of hours then off to work. Now I sleep through the night every night. Once at work I would feel relaxed and love being at work. Now all I want to do is finish my day and hurry home. Another sign was I would eat Rolaids like they were candy. I would go through a large bottle in about a week. Plus when I got home I would have 4 or 5 drinks and we're not talking about wimpy drinks it would be scotch or DiSarono. It would take me about a couple of days to finish of a fifth. Now I hardly drink at all and I really have no desire to drink at all.
When I first moved here to Florida with Jen it felt like I had always lived here. Of course I didn't know my way around but thanks to Tom Tom that is getting easier. When Jen and I first got together there was no awkwardness that you get when you meet somebody new. It was like we had always been together. Jen is the first person that I have been with that seems to "fit" with me. Whenever we are apart it feels like a part of me is missing and I don't feel "whole" again until I get home to her and Tristin. There are no words to describe how much I love Jen. She is unlike anybody I have ever known. Whenever I'm home alone I feel lost and just sort of wander the house until she gets home. Hell unless she is in the bed with me I can't sleep, I have never had trouble sleeping in bed alone before. She is my whole world and universe.

A new day

Well today is a new day, a day to be proud of my wife. In case you don't know it she is a school teacher. A pretty amazing one at that. Well the ruling is just in and her school was graded an A by the county and a B by the state plus her school made Annual Yearly Progress or AYP, I am so proud of her. She is a great teacher and mentor to her kids there. She just attended a class on using the smartboard in her classroom and she is working on some lessons to utilize it's full potential. She is the greatest in the world.

My Wife

Jennifer right now you are sleeping and I'm glad as you need your rest. I love you more than you could possibly know. You are my whole world and universe. You give my life purpose that it lacked before. We talked about a lot of stuff last night and I still get the feeling that you don't believe me. The only things I think about are you, Tristin, and our life together. You keep thinking that you aren't good enough for anybody. Well I'm not good enough for you. I am trying my best to be the husband and father you want for you and Tristin. However I feel like I am falling short. I have never loved anybody as much as I love you. There isn't a second that goes by that I don't think about you and our life together. I told you last night that the happiest times I have ever had were with you and you find that hard to believe. Well it's very true. You are my world and universe. I wish I could do more for you and us. I would tell you to be patient and my support will be lowered and I will get promoted but you have waited and been patient long enough. Patience and waiting isn't something that I'm good at. I want us to be a happy couple and love each other more in 20 years that we do now (though I don't think we could love each other more but I fall deeper in love with you every day.). I am hoping that someday we can put all this behind us and be the happy family that we have both longed for our entire lives. You are my best friend, soulmate, and true love, not to mention my freckle mate and bug bunny/mushy french fry mate. :) Jennifer I love you with all my heart and soul.

Well another day is upon us. I'm having a lot of feelings about my past. I wish that I could bury the past forever but it just seems to keep haunting me. I have an exwife that insists that when we have talked in the past it was never about money and she keeps telling me and everybody that she doesn't need my money but yet what is she calling for? Yup you guessed it MONEY. Now matter how much she gets it isn't enough. Currently she gets about 1200 per month. She makes about 55k per year. I only make about 24k per year and I only bring home about 400 per month.
Now let's look at Jen who makes about 22oo per month and we have to scrimp and make do just so Tristin can have a somewhat normal life and his dad who proclaims his love for him can't even be bothered to call or write, let alone pay child support or send any money for him because it would go to Jen and god forbid money go to Jen so that she could get Tristin things he needs. However he has no problems with Mona's kids and having a good time with them. Boy he sure looks like he is suffering. The child support system is so fucked up that you wouldn't believe it. One time she calls and gets told that they are seeking legal action against him in the form of a warrant and then she gets and IDO in the mail along with a child support check. Cool right you would think that the system is working right? Wrong she calls in the other day gets somebody different and got a whole other story about how the IDO was cancelled because the State's attorney issued a new one and to call back a couple of days after her support is due. So she calls back and gets now a whole new story and pretty much the IDO from the state's attorney's office pretty much isn't worth the paper is printed on and she will have to wait 30 days because that's how long it takes per their guidelines and then they will send out a late notice. Then he tells her that one maybe one reason is because he doesn't work at that employer anymore. So in essence he is intentionally not working just so he doesn't have to pay child support. So will anything happen to him? Probably not, he like many other deadbeats will just walk away scott free and go on and live their new life and then profess how much they love their kids and how much it hurts to think about them but yet they are living high off the hog while their kids suffer. The only thing that the kids have done in all of this is have a deadbeat for a father.
I don't know of any other options open to Jen, she/we don't have the money for an attorney. It seems the one agency created to cure this problem is absolutely worthless. James had intentionally left the state and is in fact in hiding just to avoid being found.The federal laws that are in place are just a joke and only punish the guys who pay their support and doesn't do squat to those that don't. So for all the stories I hear about how many states don't play around with support I only can say BULL you know what. IF you want see what a deadbeat looks like here you go.


Dead Beat Dad James E. Smith who lives somewhere in the Harvest Alabama area. Currently about $2600.oo behind in support and won't even email, call, or write to his son.

Me

Well I've just started this blog. I will add more later on as time permits.